Marriage
Marriage
We in “Family that matters” see marriage as the foundation for a strong family and family culture.
We believe it is up to us parents to be the example of life to our children, and this in every way: how we treat each other in love, how we honour and respect each other ,in how we deal with our desires, expectations, challenges, problems, weaknesses, and stress situations.
It is something beautiful to see a family in unity – and this unity comes always from the relationship the parents have, the way they strive for unity and connection in every day life.
And it’s this unity and connection the posts in this section will talk about.
We believe it is up to us parents to be the example of life to our children, and this in every way: how we treat each other in love, how we honour and respect each other ,in how we deal with our desires, expectations, challenges, problems, weaknesses, and stress situations.
It is something beautiful to see a family in unity – and this unity comes always from the relationship the parents have, the way they strive for unity and connection in every day life.
And it’s this unity and connection the posts in this section will talk about.
Marriage isn’t just a choice. It’s choosing the same person a million times
Articles on Marriage
Articles on Marriage
3 Steps toward helping your wife to feel more close to you
Hey husbands, have you ever been in the situation, where you know, your wife is kind of distant, reserved toward you, but you don’t know exactly why? And even worse, you don’t know what to do about it. While she may simply be mad at you (ever had the situation where...
My Journey of the last decade and what I learned from it
There s a new article I recently published on my other website called "freedomthatmatters". You can read the article by visiting here or read it right here:
Why we don’t strive to have a good marriage anymore
A few hours ago, Benny and I came back from a workshop on marriage, called LAM (Love after marriage). I am still filled with all those impressions, it was so amazing. The most amazing, life transforming reality in this workshop was the tangible presence of the Holy...
“I thought that this was love” – how to make the difference between love and codependency
As I wrote in the last article, I had to learn the difference between codependency and love the hard way. In fact, I didn’t even know that there was a difference between the two. I knew the word “codependency” but never made the parallel to my own life.Today, all...
Open letter from a grateful me to the guy that broke my heart
Dear friend, For a long time, you and “our story” was buried inside me like the wreck of the Titanic on the bottom of the sea – forgotten and invisible, yet part of my story, my past. Even years later, it was very difficult for me to dive to the depth of the sea to...
Can you imagine not caring for yourself and still being cared for?
Last week, Jeanne and I celebrated the 10 year anniversary of our marriage. It was a moment to look back, to reflect and to ponder over the effects our marriage has had on the lives of each of us. No words can describe the gratefulness this created in my heart. Having...
How we can redeem each other into our God-given identity
About a year ago I wrote an article called “How individuality in marriage scared me – and how I learned to enjoy it“ There, you could read a conversation we had a few years into our marriage, where I told Benny: “Darling, we have a problem!“ He looked at me puzzled,...
When saying goodbye to my prince charming doesn’t mean entering a real fairytale
While I was still writing my last article (Saying goodbye to prince charming – to live a real fairytale), I was aware that there are people who are in a really difficult situation in their marriage. I was aware that my challenges with Benny were only everyday issues...
Saying goodbye to prince charming – to live a real fairytale
Have you ever looked at other couples, feeling that they, contrary to your marriage, have it all together? That they are both fulfilled and happy, living a fairy tale marriage? I have met couples who have looked perfect. I’ve looked up to them, they seemed to have it...
How active Appreciation can make a difference
There is little I cherish more in our marriage than active appreciation. Active appreciation is something Benny brought into my life.His way of how he actively appreciates who I am and what I do has changed my life over the years. Today, our whole family is constantly...