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Welcome! I am so glad you are here!
Welcome! I am so glad you are here!
This website will provide you with new articles about family life, education, marriage, personal growth and about faith. The content is profound, practical, based on love. It honors you as a family and an individual, independently of your origin and social background. I will share with you the insights of my journey to be this successful woman, wife and mother. I enjoy my life with a deep gratefulness in my heart – and the aim is to share what I’ve learned with you. Come and join the thousands of readers from all over the world!
With love,
Jeanne from familythatmatters
This website will provide you with new articles about family life, education, marriage, personal growth and about faith. The content is profound, practical, based on love. It honors you as a family and an individual, independently of your origin and social background. I will share with you the insights of my journey to be this successful woman, wife and mother. I enjoy my life with a deep gratefulness in my heart – and the aim is to share what I’ve learned with you. Come and join the thousands of readers from all over the world!
With love,
Jeanne from familythatmatters
Culture is not culture until it shows up in the children
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Why values in a family are so important
My heart is heavy right now. News from the turbulent situation in Bolivia – and South America in general invade my social media and inbox. I am looking at videos that let me have a glimpse into what is happening in the “heart of South America” - videos, which explain...
Why we don’t strive to have a good marriage anymore
A few hours ago, Benny and I came back from a workshop on marriage, called LAM (Love after marriage). I am still filled with all those impressions, it was so amazing. The most amazing, life transforming reality in this workshop was the tangible presence of the Holy...
“I thought that this was love” – how to make the difference between love and codependency
As I wrote in the last article, I had to learn the difference between codependency and love the hard way. In fact, I didn’t even know that there was a difference between the two. I knew the word “codependency” but never made the parallel to my own life.Today, all...
Open letter from a grateful me to the guy that broke my heart
Dear friend, For a long time, you and “our story” was buried inside me like the wreck of the Titanic on the bottom of the sea – forgotten and invisible, yet part of my story, my past. Even years later, it was very difficult for me to dive to the depth of the sea to...
Can you imagine not caring for yourself and still being cared for?
Last week, Jeanne and I celebrated the 10 year anniversary of our marriage. It was a moment to look back, to reflect and to ponder over the effects our marriage has had on the lives of each of us. No words can describe the gratefulness this created in my heart. Having...
Why the image we have of authority is so important part 2
As promised, in this article I will make available an example of Haim Omer's lecture, which embodies these theories and practically shows how this kind of authority could look like. Before I start with this week's thoughts, I would like to briefly recall the last...
What a mischief of our child can tell us about ourselves
This Wednesday, my sister-in-law and myself went to visit a dear friend in the French part of Switzerland.We were able to leave our kids at home; I only took my sweet three-year old with me. While we were sitting in the garden having a delicious meal, enjoying each...
“I wouldn’t want you to be my secretary“
These were the words of a professional, who is without a secretary at the moment. I love what this person does. That's why I told him I would love to help out but didn't think I was the right person for this job.That’s when he told me: “I wouldn’t want you to be my...
How we can redeem each other into our God-given identity
About a year ago I wrote an article called “How individuality in marriage scared me – and how I learned to enjoy it“ There, you could read a conversation we had a few years into our marriage, where I told Benny: “Darling, we have a problem!“ He looked at me puzzled,...
Do we encourage our children to dream?
Have you ever experienced your child telling you something like: "Mommy, I want to fly once..can we go fly with a plane sometime?" Or: "Mommy, see those beautiful ballons over there!" Often we're busy with something else and try to settle the matter quickly: "Yeah, we...
My experiences concerning abuse and what I learned from them
In the past three articles (see here, here and here) I wrote about the somewhat heavy subject of sexual abuse on our children.I found it a difficult task to resume the book I was working with; even though it was a quick read – it was packed with important, relevant...
Hit with a discovery of sexual abuse on your child? Here you’ll find some help on how to manage such a situation.
In this article, you found ways on how to establish a dialogue with children to keep them from being abused. The second article discussed how adults should act to remove doubt and identify possible abuse of the child. In the unfortunate case where abuse has indeed...
How to be prepared to detect sexual abuse of our children
In the last article we saw how difficult it is for most of us to talk about sex, especially with a child. That for adults, sexuality seems trivialized, but as soon as it concerns children, we don't know how to do it." This is one of the reasons why a situation of...
Sexuality – should we talk about it with our children?
As part of my counseling school, which I just started at the beginning of April, we have to read a few books. Here I am in our holidays at the campsite in the south of France with my children and I take the opportunity to read the first book of the compulsory reading:...
How to break free from poisonous Pedagogy today
In today’s article we will explore some more the subject of poisonous pedagogy. Then I will share with you how today I am able to recognize the pattern of poisonous pedagogy and how I am able to choose new ways and apply a new mindset for how I view God, how I see my...
An essay about Poisonous Pedagogy back in time and Today
Regardless of the season of my life, I have always had one final goal in mind: I wanted to be able to start a family. Not just any family. I longed for a healthy family. I knew, even in the years of "rebellion", while I was questioning all the values and things taught...