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Welcome! I am so glad you are here!
Welcome! I am so glad you are here!
This website will provide you with new articles about family life, education, marriage, personal growth and about faith. The content is profound, practical, based on love. It honors you as a family and an individual, independently of your origin and social background. I will share with you the insights of my journey to be this successful woman, wife and mother. I enjoy my life with a deep gratefulness in my heart – and the aim is to share what I’ve learned with you. Come and join the thousands of readers from all over the world!
With love,
Jeanne from familythatmatters
This website will provide you with new articles about family life, education, marriage, personal growth and about faith. The content is profound, practical, based on love. It honors you as a family and an individual, independently of your origin and social background. I will share with you the insights of my journey to be this successful woman, wife and mother. I enjoy my life with a deep gratefulness in my heart – and the aim is to share what I’ve learned with you. Come and join the thousands of readers from all over the world!
With love,
Jeanne from familythatmatters
Culture is not culture until it shows up in the children
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Characteristics of a shame based family and how change can happen part 2
In the last article I described a family based on shame. I described what one can imagine by the word shame and how this shame can shape the dynamics of a family. A freely invented story should illustrate this dynamic:Once upon a time there was a traditional American...
Characteristics of a shame based family and how change can happen
Description of the term "family based on shame". A few weeks ago I wrote a paper on family for my 3-year counseling school. It was to be an essay about my personal path, and about what I had learned from the various readings. In the following articles, I will reflect...
Perfect families? Healthy and well functioning families!
Have you ever seen families that looked perfect from the outside? Families that radiate a pleasant atmosphere and a feeling of love, acceptance, respect and relaxation even when you get to know them better?We all know that there are no "perfect" families. And yet I...
3 Steps toward helping your wife to feel more close to you
Hey husbands, have you ever been in the situation, where you know, your wife is kind of distant, reserved toward you, but you don’t know exactly why? And even worse, you don’t know what to do about it. While she may simply be mad at you (ever had the situation where...
My Journey of the last decade and what I learned from it
There s a new article I recently published on my other website called "freedomthatmatters". You can read the article by visiting here or read it right here:
Reflecting the online webinar “making sense of troubled kids”
The other day, Benny told me: "Jeanne, I'm going to have some work to do for business tonight. This whole month will be very intense as we will be moving the business until the end of the year." I told him this was all right and I took care of the kids.hen Benny asked...
Why we should never use attachment as a weapon against our children
As mentioned in the last article, I recently attended a webinar - an online seminar - presented live from Canada.The speaker was Gordon Neufeld and the title was "Making Sense of Troubled Kids". Many insights, revelations and important information were gathered in...
Difficult children – a look under the iceberg
- Making sense of troubled Kids- A résumé from an online webinar, held by Gordon Neufeld Phd A few weeks ago I took part in a webinar - an online seminar - which was broadcast live from Canada. The speaker was Gordon Neufeld and the title was: Understanding difficult...
The influence of attachment on family values
When our girl was about three years old, she was of a very independent spirit. She was a happy little girl; however, she didn’t need us, as it seemed.When we went for a walk, she walked in front or behind us. She never came for a cuddle and showed herself pretty...
Why values in a family are so important part 2
In the last article I wrote on how we as a family implement principles and values into our children. How we don’t simply “go with the flow” but deliberately choose what we want to accept into our family. We don’t let just anything our society presents to us enter our...
Why values in a family are so important
My heart is heavy right now. News from the turbulent situation in Bolivia – and South America in general invade my social media and inbox. I am looking at videos that let me have a glimpse into what is happening in the “heart of South America” - videos, which explain...
Why we don’t strive to have a good marriage anymore
A few hours ago, Benny and I came back from a workshop on marriage, called LAM (Love after marriage). I am still filled with all those impressions, it was so amazing. The most amazing, life transforming reality in this workshop was the tangible presence of the Holy...
“I thought that this was love” – how to make the difference between love and codependency
As I wrote in the last article, I had to learn the difference between codependency and love the hard way. In fact, I didn’t even know that there was a difference between the two. I knew the word “codependency” but never made the parallel to my own life.Today, all...
Open letter from a grateful me to the guy that broke my heart
Dear friend, For a long time, you and “our story” was buried inside me like the wreck of the Titanic on the bottom of the sea – forgotten and invisible, yet part of my story, my past. Even years later, it was very difficult for me to dive to the depth of the sea to...
Can you imagine not caring for yourself and still being cared for?
Last week, Jeanne and I celebrated the 10 year anniversary of our marriage. It was a moment to look back, to reflect and to ponder over the effects our marriage has had on the lives of each of us. No words can describe the gratefulness this created in my heart. Having...
Why the image we have of authority is so important part 2
As promised, in this article I will make available an example of Haim Omer's lecture, which embodies these theories and practically shows how this kind of authority could look like. Before I start with this week's thoughts, I would like to briefly recall the last...