Only a few months before that, I would have smiled, telling myself: “I’m not a princess and I don’t want to be one”…I would have shut this webpage and missed this amazing man, who is my husband today.

But I didn’t shut that webpage. At least not before I wrote an email to this prince who was looking for a princess.

This was a very spontaneous action of mine, because, using my brain, I would never have done that. The whole world of dating platforms was totally unknown to me and something I clearly wasn’t interested in at all.  However, that title “Prince looking for princess” triggered something inside of me.

The reason it triggered something inside of me, was a shift in my understanding, which happened a couple of months ago, on what this word “princess “could mean.

As far as I remember, being a princess was never something I dreamed of. I did not want to dress like one; being treated like one… This, because in my comprehension, it was simply boring. I considered  girls behaving like a princess annoying.
In my childhood, I preferred to go for a trip with my siblings, swimming in the nearby river or going out for long walks with our friend’s dog. Being a princess? I was not interested in that.
One time, when I was about 18 years old, I went out, with a couple of girls, to spend a weekend on a farm. For lunch the farmers prepared bacon, haricots and potatoes, something quite rural and common for a farmers meal. The girls who were with me, all with that very “princessy behavior” looked at the bacon and separated all white (the fat) from the red (the meat)… and only ate the meat. This, in my understanding, was “being” a princess and I couldn’t identify with that for one bit.

I kept this view of being a princess until a few weeks before that contact ad. And with that concept of a princess I would never have felt triggered by that title.

Today, I will simply share a poem I wrote after reading that book:

That sounds just like a fairy tale, doesn’t it?
Well, real life is a bit more complicated than a fairy tale, but we have definitely been very happily married  for 8 years, having four marvelous children together… still marveled about having found each other that very way.

And still I am his princess. Together we are “changing the world”.
Change is the most effective when it starts inside us. When our inner realty changes from rejection, fears, shame into a beautiful, mature, joyful place. From that place it becomes a deep desire to reach out to our own children, reach out to the people close to us and to people all around the world.